Whether it is John Gray, michelle, Fr, Allender, or my latest readingby Louise Hay; "We are all victims and our parents could have not possibly taught us what they did not know." Your X is most likely acting out his parental upbringing. He can change but he needs to see a reason to. Usually like me I must go to the dark night of the soul. It's not nice here. It's scary, lonely, and stressful
