Holy smokes. I know I do not post much at all, but I am still a regular reader here. This is an incredibly supportive and uplifting forum. Having been married to someone who was in previous abusive relationships (my D is now official, btw) I'll make a few comments. Because I have posted so little though, you can ignore them, find a little hope in them, or tell me to get lost. Anyway...
Quote: I draw the line at abuse.
Good for you.
Quote: I decided to take DD4 to nursery school so we went. On the way out, X was there with the girls in his car. He got out of the car, absolutely FUMING and started walking towards me, swearing and saying the F word and where the F have you been etc.
What in the world...scary start to a conversation.
Quote: He went crazy and said 'I'm going to go in there and tell all the other parents about your kids that you gave up that you never see!' (psychological abuse, or at least an attempt at it).
Exactly...psychological abuse. It's a threat plain and simple. Manipulation/control.
Quote: I turned to walk away as I won't be treated like that. He followed me down the road on foot and stuck his leg out in front of me to nearly trip me up. I walk with a walking aid outdoors as my balance isn't good enough to walk unaided. In the house I hold onto furniture etc. He tried to trip me up.
I tried to move round him but he held his foot on it so I couldn't move.
This floors me. It is evil. It is like the time my XW told me when her previous ex threw juice at her and tried to hit her in the stomach while he was driving. She was pregnant at the time.
Quote: He started yelling about how I will make him late.
Late? Wait, maybe it would be helpful for him to go back to the "FUMING" part and start over...by being civil about things.
Quote: He shouted that I haven't done anything to earn respect.
Wow.
Quote: I asked him if he treats all his other friends like this. He said yes, if they piss him off.
Talk about a dangerous level of anger.
Quote: He said if he wanted to, he could have done that already.
I don't need to say this, but...out of a really scary conversation, this is an incredibly freaky comment. If not for the kids, I would cut all contact off permanently at that point.
Quote: He went and I went home in tears, rang the police, reported him, rang my lawyer who was out and rang my friend who is coming over now.
Wow. I'm glad you reported this. NOBODY deserves to be treated like this and it seems like there was an extremely fine line between his threats and following through on them (not stopping the car, etc.). As hard as it may be to hear this right now, there are other people in this world who never even comprehend pulling such unacceptable, dangerous crap on their spouses, ex-spouses, girlfriends, etc.
