The police are coming out at some point today. Andy has just flipped so much so it's as if it was 3 years ago.
I will refer to him as X from now on, not H. No more DB'ing, I'm done. I draw the line at abuse. Sorry for the sad ending, folks.
I got even iller last night so I sent H a text saying don't bring the girls, I am ill.
Expected him to collect DD4 at 10am as he said, but he didn't show. I waited over 2 hours. I thought he was mad at me for being ill and not seeing the girls so I figured he'd gone on holiday and wasn't coming here.
I decided to take DD4 to nursery school so we went. On the way out, X was there with the girls in his car. He got out of the car, absolutely FUMING and started walking towards me, swearing and saying the F word and where the F have you been etc.
I told him he said 10am and I'd waited for nearly 2 hours. He denied it and said he said 11.30am. I apologised and said it must have been a misunderstanding, I wasn't feeling very well, but I'd taken her in there now so would he wait till after the session?
He went crazy and said 'I'm going to go in there and tell all the other parents about your kids that you gave up that you never see!' (psychological abuse, or at least an attempt at it).
I told him not to threaten me and said the teachers know about her sisters anyway.
I turned to walk away as I won't be treated like that. He followed me down the road on foot and stuck his leg out in front of me to nearly trip me up. I walk with a walking aid outdoors as my balance isn't good enough to walk unaided. In the house I hold onto furniture etc. He tried to trip me up.
I tried to move round him but he held his foot on it so I couldn't move.
I sat down on the wall next to him to try and calm him down. I apologised again and said it must be my mistake with the time but he could have her after the session. I said he wasn't having her right now because he was threatening me about my other girls, but he could wait till after nursery and then take her.
He started yelling about how I will make him late. I said it was a simple misunderstanding and that I had been trying to accodomate him and that he expected me to just drop everything immediately for him and he has no respect for me.
He shouted that I haven't done anything to earn respect. I said we are divorced, I do have a life outside you and I don't just sit in all day waiting for you to visit me. I asked him if he treats all his other friends like this. He said yes, if they piss him off. I said he won't have any friends left if he carries on like that. He started shouting about how I never call him to ask how he is and I never call the girls either. I pointed out that he doesn't ask how I am either, and he knows why I don't call the girls, because it's always always like this.
He tried to give me the 'I don't care about you' speech so I got up and started walking down the road again. He got in the car and started following me down the road, swearing at me in front of our kids, who looked terrified. I said to them 'This is why mummy doesn't see you, because he always does this and he's always swearing at me and hitting me etc.'
He denied that he hit me (he did once, 3 years ago, but it never happened again). I tried to walk away, he drove the car in front of me, across the sidewalk, and said 'What are you going to do now?' (threatening tone). I said, in tears, that I would phone someone. He said 'How? You don't have your cell phone.' I told him I would go to a house and scream for help. I managed to get round his car. He drove passed me, then turned the car round, reved up the engine and started driving towards me really fast. I thought he was going to kill me.
He stopped about 1 inch away from me. I shouted at him 'For God's sake man, you've gone CRAZY! What are you trying to do, kill me?'
He said if he wanted to, he could have done that already. I looked at my daughters who were petrified and said I'm sorry, but now you know why I can't be there for you.
I turned around and carried on walking, he followed me, swearing the whole time. I told him to F off. He said he wasn't going anywhere till I have him DD4. He said he would take me to court again. I said you are scaring me, go away. I will call the police.
He went and I went home in tears, rang the police, reported him, rang my lawyer who was out and rang my friend who is coming over now.
