OK, you’re right. I was thinking along the lines of her being unwilling to make any changes. I was getting back into the old pattern of just thinking that I can’t make her change anything. I should know by now that I can’t make her change, but I can change myself and change the dynamics of the sitch.
I was allowing the little conflict avoider on my shoulder to convince me that I was actually doing something by asking her to do something a little different. You two fine ladies have managed to get through to me that asking for a change, then just passively accepting the same old thing, isn’t really doing anything at all. Thanks for the kick in the pants. Now I need to go away and think about what I want, what boundaries I would be willing to set, and what consequences I would actually have the backbone to apply. Gee, thanks – now you’ve put it back on me again.
