Quote: The first and biggest question is does W want to be a better lover.
I really wouldn't get caught up in worrying about this. She will become a better lover as you assert what you need. You have a great sense of the issues and are compassionate and certainly patient....I feel what you need to do here is to think of a small step that would make you feel " given to." Don't think about whether this is the right thing for her to do given her ( dis) abilities...think what is right for you...I know you will come up with something reasonable to the situation. if you keep catering to what she can or cannot do, then what she gives you will not really be for you. What is a small thing that Z-Bube would enjoy?
