Quote: Incidentally, I am not sexy in the way you described either. I'm not particularly graceful in my body movements. If I had thought that my husband was referring to that kind of sexiness, I'd have been way intimidated myself.
This is interesting because I have sort of the opposite problem myself, at least when it comes to "style". I think my H would prefer it if I concerned myself with looking pretty and sweet, "girl next-doorish" as MrsNOP described herself, but this just isn't me. I feel all repressed when I dress this way, like I've just signed up with the Amish or something. My natural style runs the gamut from slob (overalls, no makeup, hair in bun with pencils sticking out) to urban babydoll slut (flip-flops, high pony tail, low-rise training pants, tight white t-shirt with witty saying, giant silver earrings) and my H doesn't appreciate either of these looks or anything in between. I bought two new outfits last week. One of the outfits was definitely more preppy than my usual style. My H told me it looked "nice" on me. The other outfit was definitely more sexy and I thought it looked much more attractive on me, but my H didn't even notice it even though I was definitely getting some attention from the general public when I wore it out and about.
OTOH, I'm actually pretty shy in real life. I don't do or say sexually provocative things in a purposeful manner in the course of my daily life. Though my true nature does come through I know. For instance, the other day I was at the market absent-mindedly feeling all the peaches for ripeness and a man turned his head upside down to leer at me from the other side of the pile of peaches. I prefer to think he was attracted to my sensual nature but it may have been the tight white t-shirt combined with my new 360 degrees of support bra that got his attention.
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