I try. I too, worry about the D’s growing up as sexually dysfunctional as their mother. It’s kind of tricky though. There’s a really fine line there I’m trying to walk. They obviously see the sex-averse behavior GGB so accurately described. They hear her complain about any reference to sex that comes up in movies or TV shows they see together. I’m also appalled by the immorality so routinely portrayed in the media, so I have to somehow convey that sex isn’t inherently bad or dirty to try to counteract what they get from W, without showing acceptance of anything that violates our moral standards. That’s not hard in a frank discussion of sex, but it is hard in the day-to-day context that they see W’s negativity.
I know that this isn’t a child rearing BB, but since the prosecution has opened the door (apologies to HD), I do want to follow up here. A couple of weeks ago D17 had a friend spend the night. D17 and this friend, even in this day of blogs, Xanga sites, and text messages, apparently write notes to each other at school. But rather than writing notes, they have written convos in a notebook that they pass back and forth. It seems that W found the notebook and proceeded to read it. What she discovered shocked her.
I didn’t read it and W didn’t give me any details, but apparently a lot of what they were writing was about boys and sex. D17 wrote about x-bf and what they did. I didn’t get the details (and actually felt kind of like I was invading her privacy just hearing about it), but W said that they did “pretty much everything except IC”. The only detail she told me was that D17 didn’t give him head. She said that D17 “licked it” and said that “it was gross”. I don’t know where I’m going with this, but I’m just relating it as it pertains to W passing on her attitudes. Comment or not – as you wish.
