DL,
THe books don't help much simply because she's way to embarrassed to even consider opening them, even if they are in line with the religious teachings.

Still trying to figure out a way to help her over her hangups about sex. I'm all ears if you have ideas. Mrs.NOP? Right now I am trying to encourage her to tell me what she thinks of when she thinks of sex or what she'd like to try different, etc. So far very little response other than a hint that she does have those thoughts occasionally...that alone is a major breakthrough folks!