W will not MB. She finds the whole concept distasteful. I believe “sick” is the word I’ve heard her use. The same goes for touching herself during IC. Touching yourself is sick and twisted. Only sick-os and perverts do that. She does initiate once in a while. I can’t really give you any hard numbers though. It’s probably less than 25%, but that’s just a guess.
I know that this doesn’t sound true, but we really don’t have a lot of problems in our R other than sex. We already do many, many things together and are best friends. We have joy. We have fun. We love getting rid of the kids and having time to ourselves. We’re frequently physically affectionate: hugging, holding hands, walking arm-in-arm, kissing, etc. Our teenaged daughters frequently point at us and start yelling, “PDA! PDA! That’s not allowed!” W and I are both very active in an animal rescue group and spend most Saturdays together at pet adoptions. (You can see our website here. Right now we’re fostering 7 dogs in addition to our own 3 dogs and 3 cats.) She thinks I work too much, I think she spends too much, she wishes I had more hair, I wish she would lose weight, and we’re generally a pretty normal couple. We are best friends. Companionship is not a problem. Communication can still be a problem, but that’s primarily in the sexual arena.
