My Wife LOVES oral sex, it is by far the more intense orgasam for her. There are times where she may not want it because she doesn't want sex at all on those nights. But she is one of those hard to arouse women, and guess how she wants to be aroused, through ORAL work on her privates bits. So to create arousal, oral usually plays a role. So if I want sex, often oral comes into play.
Now, I LOVE to perform oral, but it is the resentments around HER problems with oral that are really starting to bother me, and I guess some of the other guys on this board as well.
Quote: When I was LD if I had told my H I didn't like oral (to give or receive) and he continued to give it to me....I'd feel pressured to give it to him back....and I wouldn't like that....I would have resisted it, I would have felt manipulated. I don't know if this is her perspective, just giving you how I would have seen it back then.
I suspect that many LD women are like this. I really don't know with my own wife. I rarely ask for oral in return, probably only once or twice in the last ten years (i know her feelings on this). So I am not applying direct pressure on her, but maybe she is pressuring herself?
