Quote: Mrs. NOP, How are you working on the libido issues? I ask because it sounds like yours and NOPs situation is similar to mine and my wifes. I was angry because she never wanted sex. Now we know the issues, and I am doing very good, if I may say so, on the anger, but how to get her to work on the libido. She still says that she knows she is the one with the problem, but it kind of stays at that. I would bug your husband about this, but he seems very busy most of the time. Thanks
NR, I have a choice. I can wait for a sexually nuanced feeling to hit me before I act, or I can delight in my husband physically and enjoy the closeness, the caresses, the tingles and the orgasms we share.
It boils down to whether or not this person is important enough to me to make the effort. That may sound cold, but it is the bottom line. *You* need to make sure that you aren't doing anything that would hinder her in wanting to make that choice. That's where eliminating the anger and whatever other issues the two of you might have had enters in.
