Let me ask you this....is this how she wants it? Does she want the oral? If so, then why would you go for you doing that for her...but her never doing that for you? You mentioned at one point that you didn't think she liked even receiving oral....so why would you continue to do that?
When I was LD if I had told my H I didn't like oral (to give or receive) and he continued to give it to me....I'd feel pressured to give it to him back....and I wouldn't like that....I would have resisted it, I would have felt manipulated. I don't know if this is her perspective, just giving you how I would have seen it back then.
If you continue to perform oral on her, and she never gives back in return.....what's the point? I mean, it seems to me that you set no boundaries/consequences....it doesn't appear she has any motivation to do what you ask. And if you are continuing to do something she has told you she doesn't like you to do before (performing oral on her) then why would you do that? If she doesn't like it and you still do it...all you're likely to do is irritate her.
