Creeping Dissatisfation

[MJontheMend]

So how does one justify if they are not receiving/giving oral sex they are being short changed. I think some people, and especially women, have boundaries in this area, that to them, are deal breakers. I am not saying you are wrong (you have a right to be unhappy) just want to have your opinion how a spouse goes from "no boob touching" (HD) to just having eveny missionary sex once a week.

You make the point that many women have "deal breakers" concerning not doing certain sexual activities. I believe that there are many people who have "deal breakers" concerning doing certain sexual activities. Those people never end up on this BB because they resolve their sexual issues right away because they are such a high priority for them. I mean I'm certain that there is a guy out there who is the exact clone of CeMar except that the first time his wife said "I don't want to give you BJs anymore." that guy said "That's f*cked up! I'm outta here.".

My personal opinion is that it is quite selfish to not even be willing to try something your partner is interested in sexually. Of course, I also think it is quite selfish to not be willing to expend a bit of effort to help out a horny partner even if you're not exactly in the mood at the moment. There are a lot of sexual activities that don't appeal to me but if I had a partner who was into one of them I would at least try to figure out what it was about that activity that they found appealing and affect some sort of compromise psychologically if not physically or vice-versa. For example, a woman who really didn't like the idea of swallowing could learn to do the water fountain trick or someone who didn't like nipple clamps could still be willing to put them on their partner etc. etc. etc. Sometimes the LDW described on this BB remind me of the kind of boring, bossy little girl who would invite you over to play but then only be willing to play the one game of their choosing.