Quote: I guess what I was getting at is you seem to be asking the question "Is it okay to be dissatisfied?".
No, that’s not the question. The real question is more like, “I feel like I should be satisfied, so why am I not?”. It’s just restating what I’ve said before, but I recognize that W had made huge changes in addressing this problem and I really feel like I should be happy with that. I think what I’m asking is if you agree that I should be satisfied with the progress we’ve already made or if you think there is justification for my creeping dissatisfaction. Part of me wants to keep pushing and keep pushing, even though I’m all but certain that the goal will never be reached. Another part of me says that an awful lot of progress has already been made and that I should just be content with the new and improved SL. The conflict avoider sitting on my shoulder keeps whispering the latter into my ear.
HD, Monday will be exactly 29½ years of M – and W has never attempted oral. I remember that I really liked it, but the memories are getting pretty dim.
HP, I have suggested a little variety. My suggestions are always met with refusals though. They’re not cold or mean, but they’re refusals just the same. As an example, I’ve made it clear to W that I like it when she’s on top. We’ve managed it a couple of times, but it always comes from starting in the missionary position and trying to roll over without becoming, shall we say, “uncoupled”. It ain’t easy, but it’s the only way we can get into that position. W is quite overweight, just under 5’ and somewhere in the vicinity of 200lbs (she won’t let me see her exact weight). I don’t know if it’s the weight or not, but we just don’t seem to “fit together” too well. Even in the missionary position, I always feel like something’s not quite right. It always seems like we’re at different angles or something. In any case, that’s the only other position we’ve ever tried. And it’s difficult at best. Generally, when I suggest something like her getting on top, she says something like, “Let’s just do this.”
That’s a long-winded way of saying that I already have tried suggesting a little variety, but I haven’t had any success. It’s very hard for me, but maybe I can flick the conflict avoider off of my shoulder and give it another try.
IHJ, thanks for the PM reminder. I do remember the growth and comfort phases. Maybe I need to read it again for a refresher.
Zufriedengestellter Bube
P.S. - HP, if you had a German keyboard, the y and the z would be reversed. That makes z much easier.
