Quote: Is it the sensation that goes with a BJ that you want or do you want your wife to do something she does not like just because it pleases you or is it the idea of everyone else does it and why should I be excluded? I guess we can overanalyze anything but figuring out what precisely it is about not getting a BJ that is bothering you may help you figure out how to move past the current roadblock in your life.
I think these are GREAT questions. For myself, my discontent over the lackanookie is in large part because I know that lots of people are doing it and I want some of the good stuff, too. It's an envy thing (which, BTW, is the curse of the Enneagram Four.) One of the reasons I want sex is because it makes me feel normal and attractive and an okay human being. At this point, not a whole lot has to do with the exchange of love or the pleasurable feelings. I know he loves me, and I can give myself spectacular good feelings.
I'd really like to know what others think about DB's questions.
