ZB Let me ask you something. Is it the sensation that goes with a BJ that you want or do you want your wife to do something she does not like just because it pleases you or is it the idea of everyone else does it and why should I be excluded? I guess we can overanalyze anything but figuring out what precisely it is about not getting a BJ that is bothering you may help you figure out how to move past the current roadblock in your life. As posted above, dissatisfaction leading to a grwoth cycle is terrific but I think your point of not setting up a moving target is also valid. Is there a way that for the moment you can focus on something she wants and work towards it as a way of showing your sincere desire to change and grow? DeepBlue
