I think the feelings you are going through are normal. Just because you had improvements in your marriage does not mean you are an ogre for wanting more. I know you are grateful that you are no longer in the desperate stage, but perhaps now is a time to take things up a notch and think of new goals. I like HP's suggestions...she is so good with the goal making stuff.
In PM Schnarch talks about cycling in and out of growth and comfort phases, and I do see it as part of life's journey to keep working at things rather than becoming stagnant. As JJ has said, you may be stirred up by looking in someone else's window, but then you have to get back to walking down your own road, if you know what I mean.
