Honeypot, just because my bf is distressed by my crying doesn't mean he's any good at giving comfort. I also get the feeling tears make him angry, as though I'm failing to control behavior that I know makes him nuts.
I can sometimes get a few seconds of comforting out of him, maybe a one-armed hug, but within a minute or so, he'll get annoyed and usually leave the room.
Doglover put it perfectly:
Quote: The partner needs to take the tears seriously but not too personally.
Everyone's comments about tears were very interesting and right on the money.
