Quote: Is it because tears are in the Women's Realm? A place where guys have been forbidden to go? Sort of like, not exactly a secret weapon... but something that's in a secret code... do they perceive it as a woman disappearing into a place where they cannot follow... they have to just sit and wait in agony until she crawls out?
Guys feel distressed when their woman cries partly because when men cry it is usually associated with a tremendous loss. Maybe women cry when a lower point value losses occurs. We think the loss is higher valued by observing the womans body language. We cry at an 8 loss and when we see women crying for a 6 loss, we think it ment 8 points to her.
We let the woman determine the value of her loss and when it looks like she had an 8 loss through her body language, we feel like we have to help. I guess guys have to learn not to add points to a womans loss.
Lil and other women, glad you posted something about women crying. It helps me to detach from womens pain and trying to make things better for them. I can see that some women need to go through the crying spell because that is the way they are and not as a failure on my part for helping, but not makeing things better.
Why do we feel uncomfortable around crying women? I guess its a dad thing we have built in us. Kind of like we are the caretaker that is supposeed to make everyone feel safe. I guess I have to see the difference between feeling safe and feeling a loss in someone else.
