Quote: Telling her about your feelings and requesting attention to your needs is all well and good but it leaves everything hangin in the air. What if she doesn't? What if she has good intentions but can't bring herself to do it? What if she just gets plain old lazy about it? Then what?
Yep, communication has to be coupled with action. We can all talk ourselves silly about what feels good or what feels bad but, until we take some sort of action to change the behaviors we've done nothing.
My ex and I used to do this. Talk the hell out of things, smile at each other, profess our love to each other then get up from the table and walk away. NOTHING ever changed because no one ever took any action that would warrant change.
You hear so much about how the most impotant tool one can have in a marriage is communication. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Well, I learned way to late that it means nothing if you aren't willing to take action and taking action can be a very simple thing. You just have to stop waiting around for the other person to be the one to take action. Cathy
