I guess one of the most frustrating parts is that I feel I’ve told her all of this. I’ve explained how I feel, I’ve described the impact on me. When that didn’t seem to work I wrote it down and sent it to her and we emailed each other…nothing seems to have changed. She told me things that hurt…and I’m sure the things I told her hurt. But that’s been a long time ago. I guess I do have a problem starting something that I know is leading to pain for us. Maybe it’s the fear of what I have to do to create change that’s hobbling me.
Your point is well taken, I know from my fitness programs that growth only comes from the stress and pain associated with pushing your muscles. Sounds like relationships are the same. But you are right, it will hurt to know she’s in pain.
