Lackn, You remind me a ton of my husband. Cathy gave you some great stuff to chew on.
I will be keeping tabs on your thread to see how this all turns out! Someday I hope that my own husband crosses paths with the likes of Cathy and she points this out to him, also. One thing to remember is that growth is not going to happen during times of "lackn smoothing things out" or "lackn making the hurt go away"...that will forever preserve the status quo. Both you and she facing up to your faults and hurting each other must happen. For how else can you say, I've been sexually disappointed for much of our marriage, and not hurt the other person?
Reality sucks and it will hurt to hear her side and hurt YOU to disclose your true feelings to her, knowing that she will be in pain.
People do not die from hurt feelings. It doesn't even last that long if you face it head on. Then you can both dust yourselves off and get on with things.
