Well, things could be better but they could be a hell of a lot worse too. I’m choosing to look at the positive and consider things that much closer to utopia. “A” is fully involved with menopause. Her nights and days are filled with hot flashes and discomfort. One day at time I guess. We are able to joke about it a bit, so that helps lighten the tension some. I’ve had but one goal on my mind since we got back together that I will not let myself forget: Communicate!!!!!!!! It’s working very well. It doesn’t matter if it’s a little thing or a big thing; communicate it. A page from the book of “MEN”: We are taught at an early age that our feelings are taboo and should be kept to ourselves. “RUBISH” It amazes me how much better things are when I tell her how I’m feeling, whether it’s Good or Bad. Too bad it took me 16 years to figure it out. Oh well, better late than never.
I think one of the hardest things for me to grasp through all of this was the concept of PATIENCE. A sage of a person on this BB was instrumental in helping me with that. If I could pass anything along it would be that. That and communication. Knowing what to say, how to say it, and when is key. I practice in my head what I need to say and remain patient for the proper time to say it. I think we tend to take for granted when we are with someone for any length of time, that we can say whatever we want whenever. Not so. Tune in to your partner! You would be amazed at how much they tune into you in return.
Sorry I haven’t been around much. Work, three children (Fabulous and healthy by the way) and a blossoming relationship keep a guy pretty busy. Not to mention the last couple of months I’ve been trying to finish a Go-Kart for the kids. I rebuilt a donated engine two years ago and just brought it to life on Tuesday. I call it the “DART”. With the exception of a few components the entire Kart is made of Stainless Steel. Like a Delorian. Hence “D”-elorian k-“ART”. As far as the kids know it isn’t supposed to be ready for driving until spring. The weather has been very warm and we are expecting a brown Xmas. So this will be perfect on Xmas morn when they look in the garage and find a big red bow tied to it.
That’s about it for now except: Merry Christmas one and all!!
To my special friends here (you know who you are): {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and a peck on the cheek you dears!!!
Cheers all
HFO
Forgiveness is the release of all hope for a better past. – Alexa Young
