You are more then welcome for my opinion from the other side of the fence I just wish I could offer a true solution. I think for me and my mindset just the realizing and trying to understand both sides to a degree has helped a large amount. Not stating it has cured my M there are so many other issues to still tackle oddly this was the easiest but also that one that stands in the way of the others even being viewed clearly.
she would see right through this and say, "that's not really an apology."
If she does tell her it is the best you can do at this time. That at least you are acknowledging that she feels these things to show she is aware of it. And tell her point blank if need be that at least by acknowledgement of her feelings you are doing more for her then she is for you.
In truth I do not know if your marriage has other issues other then the sexual ones. But it is apparent that this one needs to come first because it is what has manifested into a monster in your R. And in truth from what I have read it seems you are doing everything you can to fix it with little or no help from her. From my point of view you might as well go outside and bang your head against a tree you are gonna end up with the same results a headache. My meaning unless and until she is willing to take her share of the responsibility and blame in what is wronge then you alone are carring the burden for both of you on her back and I wonder how long until it breaks?
She needs to face her demons and she needs to stop letting them control her. Has the C ever addressed this? Or she needs to stop wantingly use the pity me acts as a crutch to get her way. It is very common in people and society allows and almost pats them on the back for it.( Feel entitled to say that since I myself have been there it is not a overly harsh dont know what I am talking about judgement). I do not know your wife so I do not know which of the above listed actions if either pertain to her But I do know both play in the role of a abused (of any sorts) persons mind set. Just another thought to ponder lol
Cemar
While French Kissing is taboo to me all kissing is not. There are the pecking kind allowed and also there are the little hmm longer maybe run your tongue around the lip kisses just not the cram it down my throat kisses. Problem is you gotta get close enough to your spouse to try it. Sorta kissing lessons on the go type thing.
And oh yes the emotional thing wish I could answer that. If you read my thread you will see that has become a big hmmm to me right now. Sorta my figure out life issue of the moment. Any more questions you have I will gladly answer but maybe we should move them to my thread to not hijack Hairdogs.
