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when it's really more about having an attitude shift regarding recognizing his needs, and working from there.


Bingo.
If she would just make more than a nominal effort in this area, I'd appreciate it. She says I keep score of the touches, kisses, hand holdings...it's not that I keep score, it's just that the touches are noteworthy because of their rarity.

I'm tired of begging for it. I'm tired of waiting for it. And I'm tired of being pushed away.

She wants me to "be comfortable with me saying 'no'", but even when I don't even go so far as to initiate, and I hang back for months, she "knows" that I'm not "there" yet. Because she is the judge, jury, executioner.

Hairdog