Hairdog, you have already been through this kind of argument with her, and it's a no-win situation because her abandonment fears are being activated.
Let her know that you want to come up with solutions rather than going around in circles. Tell her it's not so much the sex as it is her lack of respect for your needs that's getting to you. Assure her you don't need a porn star, you want her, but it has to start from somewhere....and plan a schedule for some intimacy.
