Quote: W made an effort today and you squashed it.
I guess I don't see her telling me that August 4 is some magical day as an effort. What it seems to me is further rules that I must abide by until some date in the future. In other words, I must remain patient (which I have already been, for a very long time), and then on August 4, something will happen. What is that "something"? I'll tell you what it is: Nothing. Because August 4 will come, and she will have yet another sh!tload of work or other activity that she has scheduled that will take the place of any interaction which would be meaningful to me. And, in the outside chance that she has really cleared her calendar, or whatever "free time" means, she will still be too stressed out or too tired, or too itchy, or too sore, or too hot, or too cold, or too something to do anything more than give me the most nominal of physical affection.
And now, on top of all this, I feel deceived by a woman who now informs me that tongues are icky.
As far as proceeding to argue with her, I have learned that whenever I feel I am under attack by her, and I say something in my defense, I am being "defensive." This, of course, makes it quite easy to ignore any response I may have, whether there is any merit to it, or not. Let's just put a label on it, "defensive", and then focus on why I am being defensive, rather than the issue at hand.
SOrry, SD, I can either eat the BS she is serving me (which is what I've been doing for a long time), or I can refuse. That is where I am, today.
