Maybe a good step to take at this juncture would be to at least get her to make her "timeline" visible. I mean I think you know what response you would get if you were to say "Either we have sex by August 1st or I'm outta here." but maybe you should at least say Either you tell me when we're going to next have sex by August 1st or I'm outta here.". That way you aren't forcing her to have sex on your timeline, but you are forcing her to take responsibility for her sexuality (and necessarily yours if you're monogamous) on a timeline. Heck, you could even take it one step further and say "By August 1st I want you to give me a date on which you will tell me when we will next have sex.".
Quote: I know she sounds like a demon. She's not. She can be really funny, and really loving. I see this in her behavior toward our daughter, our dogs, her mother and sister, and sometimes to her stepkids. But it's been so long since I've seen or felt it from her.
This is one of the things that hurts the most and is the hardest to comprehend but you just have to realize that most people can be nice in some contexts but cruel in other contexts otherwise you will always be blaming the victim that is you. Recognize the fact that your wife does not respect the part of your humanity that is your sexuality. Your sexuality is a brute animal that doesn't really experience pain and therefore there is no reason not to give it a boot in the balls when it shows up.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
