No, she wasn't. Nor was she always so put-off by sexual innuendo or activity. Remember, I spent the night with her on our first real date. We met online (match dot com), exchanged some nice emails, then some steamier ones; talked on the phone for hours, met face-to-face at a bookstore, kissed for the first time in the parking lot of the bookstore, then had a date about a week later (she lived about two hours away).
Now, we've gone round and round on this forum about the old "bait and switch" routine (Cemar's old favorite), but there are times when I feel like I've been taken for a ride.
This woman can be really funny. She can even make a sailor blush with some of the sexual jokes and innuendoes she says. But she is also the queen of double standards. She'll be joking one minute, then criticizing the next. I'm a pretty clever person, and I can't even figure out why what I say is inappropriate, and what she says is okay. Well, yes I can. It's because she is the ultimate judge, and she holds all the unwritten rules and standards in her head.
Okay....venting venting venting.
I know she sounds like a demon. She's not. She can be really funny, and really loving. I see this in her behavior toward our daughter, our dogs, her mother and sister, and sometimes to her stepkids. But it's been so long since I've seen or felt it from her.
And this really struck a chord:
Quote: Now you: can't actually have sex, you can't give her affection, you can't make innuendos and, furthermore, all of this is on some invisible timeline in which she is allegedly working towards allowing some or all of it.
That really sums it up. Except, I'd edit the last sentence to read, "all of this is on some invisible timeline in which she is allegedly working towards allowing some or all OR NONE of it.
Because it may never get better. It may never change.
I know, it's up to me to set my own boundaries of what I will or won't tolerate.
