Nice - I see what Nop is getting at. I don't see a lot of entitlement going on with me nor my H. I see a lot of sexual anxiety on my H's part and a lot of conflict avoidance on mine. It leads to a less than helpul situation. Every sitch is different but it is interesting how the answers of communicating through the discomfort, anxiety and yes, the anger and frustration always seems to be the answer.
I am interested in some non-verbal communication methods that allow the boundaries to be set but don't cause the LD spouse to feel cornered (if my H feels cornered he comes out yelling and not listening). Example, I initiated a few weeks ago, H started acting silly and not very interested. I said something on the order of "OK then and turned over and proceeded to go to sleep (not angrily)." A day or so later we had a productive discussion about it. A day or so after that we ML with equal participation.
With this particular sitch I see the entitlement piece. Thanks for the clarification.
