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[MJontheMend]

I'll take a shot. If I'm wrong, I'm sure NOP will say so. One example of entitlement might be the one that Michelle mentions at the beginning of the book. The fact that our LD spouses feel like they're entitled to our faithfulness even though they don't make an effort to meet our sexual needs. As we have seen this frequently results in the HD partner feeling entitled to have an affair. OTOH a HD partner might feel like he is entitled to sexual desire from his spouse even though he makes no effort to be appealing. In this case, the LD spouse might feel entitled to have an affair with someone who makes more of an effort. In all these examples none of the partners have made the effort to communicate their needs to their partners or taken action to meet their partners stated needs and thereby garner their respect. OTOH by simply having the self-respect to stand up for what you need to be happy in your relationship you will probably gain the respect of your partner.