Quote: Why bother creating a boundary about something you only kind of care about, being woken up to chat, when you can take a stand on something you really do care about, breast fondling?
Because if I said that to my W, she would say, go forth and fondle, just don't touch mine. And she knows that I can't square doing that with my current code of morality. So, it would be an empty threat/boundary. No, the best boundary I ever set was the one that finally drove her to say we needed to go to MC: I will not live in a SSM forever. I meant it, I intend to live by it, and, if things stay the way they are, I am willing to sacrifice a lot of other things that are less important to me in order to follow through. And I think she knows that I am capable of this.
In other news, we just had our MC session and spent most of the time talking about the stress my psycho-ex-wife causes to our marriage, and possible solutions. We did talk briefly about the breast-fondling incident, but not in depth. It was a session I walked out of feeling better than when I walked into it, but mainly because my W said some really nice things about our relationship, physical stuff, etc. Not a whole lot to report...just me trying to look on the bright side.
It's 99 percent attitude, right?
Hairdog, who would never say, "if I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?" However, he might say, "Should I call you in the morning or nudge you?"
