The next time your W asks you to do her a favor or perform a chore, I think you should tell her that from now on before she asks a favor or chore or you, she needs to first ask your permission to ask you if you will do a favor or chore for you and ascertain whether you are in the proper mood and frame of mind to be approached with such a request.
For example:
Mrs.HD: Will you help me weed the garden?
HD: What did we talk about?
Mrs.HD: Is it a good time to ask you a favor?
HD: Hmmmm. Let me think about it. No, I guess I'm really not in the mood to do you any favors right now. I think I need to give you a lecture on the evils of nagging wives and all the problems in the world that could be avoided if women could just learn to keep their mouths zipped shut. This is the third time this month you've asked me to do an Act of Service for you without asking my permission first. You are out of control!
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
