30 years later, no drive Husband

[doglover]

Dafty,
My H sometimes has ED and often needs to take viagra. He tells me that he (like many men?) often wakes in the morning with an erection, so we are aiming for morning ML now. I know what you mean about the pressure a man with ED feels. Each time my H fails to get it up he thinks perhaps this is the end of the road for him. We got a book out of the library, but my H has yet to read it all the way through: "Coping With Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex" -- by Michael E., Ph.D. Metz, Barry W., Ph.D. McCarthy. Relaxation, good communication, broadening your range of sexual interactions to more than just intercourse are some of the things mentioned. See if your husband will look at the book (you too). Also see Lilleperl's ED thread.
Good luck!
Doglover