Several years ago before I went out of town for a week, I told him before I left Honey I do love you dearly but I still consider a sexual relationship a strong part of a marital relationship. At that point we had not had sex for 7 months. He immediately denied it had been that long. After that conversation he did go to the doctor and get Viagra. Move forward a few years now and things have not improved that much at all. After multitide episodes of ED and some blame on his part. ( I will get to this later) I made an appointment with our doctor to have his testosterone level checked, blood sugar, etc. When I saw the doctor first, I mentioned how he has been taking Viagra like a vitamin, the doc says well don't you know that many men take Viagra, just to be able to MB. I told the doctor I don't have any problem with him MB, but if he is doing this when he has a willing partner then I do have a problem with this. After the Dr. appointment, I told the husband what the Doc said and he would not confirm or deny the MB part of this. I suggested to him instead of taking the Viagra once a day, why not take it once every two weeks and let me know when you do. He scoffed at this. Meanwhile I am thinking, yeah right you can go 6-7 months, but in the real world two weeks is too much??
I don't know club members but I think this has got to be the most frustrating ordeal for someone with a libido intact.
Basically he has told me in terms of his ED: that it leads to performance anxiety if I try to initiate, it leads to performance anxiety if I do some subtle hinting or modeling the ligerie before bedtime, so basically when we have sex is totally driven by his schedule.
I feel totally sexually stifled and as you can imagine frustrated.
No Lou I am not looking for the quick fix here, nor do I think there are any easy answers to the dilemma that I currently am in.
