Hey all, I have been on both sides of the coin, according to my husband, after children I can remember my desire going down but on the other hand I can remember spraying him with breast milk when I orgasmed. Hmmmm. OK, husband and I have been together 30 + years, married 27+ years. He used to be the classic horney toad husband, wanting hugs and kisses constantly hoping that this would lead to the act. Over the years, as his libido diminished, so did his outpouring of affection for me. So, umm I got to the point of many of you other HD ladies on here, what the hell is the matter with him, or better yet, most guys are horney SOB's so what in the hell is wrong with him?? or is there something wrong with me?? This is hellish too admit, but no, there is nothing wrong with me. He cannot say well you need to lose weight or get a face lift or whatever.
Ok, I know you will ask, so what have you tried so far? Well I read about how men like lingerie, blow jobs, and since he has ED and needs some time to take the pill before intercourse, I give him plenty of warning and suggestion before dropping subtle cues. Well guess what he does not like these subtle cues and feels that I am possibly setting him up for failure (ED). Basically since he has ED he calls all the shots otherwise a guaranteed failure, I can't initiate, if I initiate, too much pressure on his part and he won't be able to get it up. I used to see seething hot desire in his eyes for me long, long, ago, recently I saw this same look as he gazed upon his new sports car. I said, oh honey what I wouldn't do for you to look at me like that again??
