Get Out The Map

[arjnex]

Honeypot, she gives me hugs and kisses on a daily basis, at a minimum, before I leave for work, when I get home, and before going to bed. Often more frequently than that. That's been the case throughout. And she doesn't flinch away when I stroke her hair or touch her in other (non-sexual!) ways, unless she's just so tired that she simply can't deal with it. (She's occasionally described herself as "too tired to sleep." Those kinds of times.) So I think "a person whose health issues are preventing her from being sexual" is closer to the mark.

By no means do I intend to "let her off the hook" forever, but I will wait to see tangible improvement in her various health areas. The healing of her foot after surgery (6-12 weeks) is one example of that. Having her able to sleep more regularly is another. (I should think lack of sleep alone might be enough to kill desire. Would the ladies on this thread agree?)

LostGal, the suggestion of shampooing her hair is a good one, and one that I will likely have to do for her anyway after she has her foot surgery. (She did my hair after the knee surgery, for one thing.) As for your anemia suggestions, she's eating raisins in addition to spinach leaves and red meat when we can do that, and she does like red wine (especially a certain California merlot that's not too expensive and that I can find easily).

Once again, I am not throwing in the towel; I am reacting to new information received and adjusting the strategy accordingly.

- "A"