Get Out The Map

[arjnex]

Disaster has been averted...and I think I know what needs to be done.

When my wife came out of the bedroom, she was saying things like, "I need to find someplace else to stay for awhile...I don't feel comfortable here...I'm failing again." Fortunately, we turned back from the brink. The way it looks to me now, I was wrong to push her so hard so soon, particularly when her health is in chaos.

So here's what we're going to do. We're going to work on increasing her health, dealing with her foot, her hot flashes, her sleep issues, her anemia. We're also going to work on helping her feel less socially isolated; this will likely involve finding things for her to volunteer at once she's healthy enough, since that's how she met most of her friends back where we originally came from. (The ballroom dance lessons I mentioned earlier will also have a salient effect in that area, in addition to the other advantages I already mentioned.) Until we can do that, we're not going to push the sex issue. I'm guessing it'll come back once she's healthy and happy.

I did say to her, "Just remember one thing: remember there is someone here who loves you, and needs you, and wants you, when you decide you want to." She said, "I've never forgotten that." I was happy to hear that.

And you know, this solution isn't inconsistent with the 5LL strategy...making sure she gets healthy and happy is one of the biggest Acts of Service I could perform for her.

So, we've got our work cut out for us. I may not be posting here for awhile, as our concentration will be on issues not related to sex. But I have my map now...and I think someone once said that the fun is in the journey, not the destination.

Thanks for the assistance, everyone. Sometime again.

- "A"