Get Out The Map

[arjnex]

Her secondary was Quality Time. I think mine was Words of Affirmation.

Yes, she knows what mine is. We haven't discussed the full implications of that, but I think she understands it to a certain extent. (She asked me what my primary was; I said, "Guess." She said, "Physical touch?" I said, "Right in one.") She probably ought to to read the book herself.

I also tried to explain to her that, because of the differences of our LLs, I have to remember that me cleaning out the cat boxes for her (for instance) makes her feel loved in exactly the same way as her giving me a hug makes me feel loved. I don't know if she buys it, but, theoretically, she shouldn't have to believe the explanation to be affected by it, right?

Now, a note about the form I did for her: When I created the form for her, I basically took the profile for wives as printed in the back of the book, copied all the information into a page written in PHP (a dynamic Web-page language), and added some formatting and some code to handle the statement selections and the scoring. I wouldn't want to distribute it because I think that the author would rather sell copies of the book than have this given away. Besides, for all I know, there's already a page on his own site that contains the same profile...

- "A"