Greeneyedlass, I'd like to get her to take the profile for wives if I can, just to make sure. What I think I can do is see if I can convert that profile to a dynamic Web page, stick it on our local server, and have her run through it at her convenience. I'd have the page E-mail me the results, too, so I'd have a record. Shouldn't be too difficult.

As for myself, I'm 90% sure I know what my own primary love language is, but I'm going to run through the profile for husbands myself, just to (a) act as a reality check and (b) identify what secondary love language I have, which may be useful information.

Is my general approach a sound one, though? It seems pretty straightforward to me, but I know that, if I over-simplify things, it's likely to turn around and bite me in the keister...

She's gotten a call back from one psych, who would be happy to work with her but is going on vacation until the start of July. She's going to keep looking for the moment. As for the anemia, which has been a problem for her since she was a teenager, we're going to see about increasing the amount of red meat in her diet, and also she's going to look for nutritional supplements as I mentioned earlier, which should contain additional iron. (She's tried straight iron supplements before, but they tie her stomach in knots, so she gave 'em up.) Any suggestions there?

If we can get her batteries charged and her love tank filled, it may be easier to take on the sex issue. Not that my wife's a car, mind! It's just that the metaphors seem to come out that way. And yes, a lot of it is going to depend on me, when the time comes.

- "A"

"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."