(Previous thread here - I felt a title change was in order because I'm no longer as "Confused And Lost" as I used to be.)
Well, Five Love Languages arrived today, and I've had a chance to read through it. Woah. If this technique can do half of what it claims, it'd still be better than anything I can think of. After I finished the book, I lay on the bed for a moment, clutching the book to my chest, thinking: Can this be right? Could this book be the "magic bullet" I've been looking for?
Of course, my inner skeptic starts taking over, as it probably should when I start going on flights of fancy like that:
A. My wife may not cooperate to the extent required for me to determine her love language. B. Even if I know what it is, I might not be able to communicate effectively enough in that love language. C. Even assuming I can successfully pull off increasing her love level in that manner, it might have no effect whatsoever on the sex issue.
However, are any of those negative thoughts reason enough not to try it? No. I know it might take months, but, no matter what happens, I can't see myself ending up worse than before by trying to speak in a love language my wife will understand.
So, maybe I've got a new plan of action...sort of de-emphasize the sex issue per se, and focus efforts along a two-pronged path:
(1) Continue to help and encourage her to deal with her lack of energy, specifically the sleep issue, and also her anemia. (2) Meanwhile, pursue the 5LL strategy; figure out our respective love languages and work to address hers.
I'm thinking that, if those work out, then increased energy plus greater love fulfillment on her part should yield higher desire. Could I be wrong? Easily. But I can't think of a better answer.
For the moment, 5LL will be my roadmap. Which brought to mind the Indigo Girls track that I borrowed for this new topic's title:
Quote: Get out the map Get out the map and lay your finger anywhere down We’ll leave the figuring to those we pass on our way out of town Don’t drink the water there seems to be something ailing everyone I’m gonna clear my head I’m gonna drink that sun I’m gonna love you good and strong while our love is good and young
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
