Alcoholic LDH and very, very sad Normal-Drive Wife

[LostGal]

Welcome to the club that nobody wants to join. (whom ever said that congrats! Its perfect!)

Well I'm not sure it would work but its worth a try. My H is not fall down drunk, just a daily minimum type thing that is so frustrating if he starts in the morning/midday. I've gotten him to start past 5pm so he isn't asleep durring the day. This is a great improvement. Now comes the "clincher" it is my counsellor's opinion that this steady beer consumption over the years is greatly responsible for his ED, erectile disfunction. Now I know the beer came before the ED, but, the heartbreak and depression that ED causes both of us adds to the want/need to consume beer. I can't find the "best" ED site but possibly you can find a site where it says, "you better love that booze bud, cuz your little friend is go'na die if you keep it up"

You said

The worst part, however, is that there is NO affection. Certain times that I tell him about it, he'll work on it, for a while, but eventually fail. Other times, he doesn't give a crap, or respond.

Let me ask you a very hard question, with the "party girl" mentality (grabbing a mirror and reminding me of myself a many years back) was there ever affection? or was there a togetherness from the embrace in the first place and a lusting for one another?

Michele's SSM book says sometimes the desire will come after the first bit of touch/foreplay so even if you initiate it, if he continues to respond to you its a good sign. Also, what else do you 2 do together?

The ppl here helped me understand the boozer. If you want to keep this R together, I'm sure LP and others here will be here when you need us.

Hang in there!