Lillie....See here is the thing. I really don't think my husband is an alcoholic. I was raised in a home with an alcoholic parent so am very familiar with it. I have been with my husband for 12 years. he never does drink that much. In the 12 years I haven't seen him severely intoxicated like he was the other night. For him I think it is a control thing. Like F you because you told me I can't go out and have a drink. So I will and show you that I will not be controlled by anyone. He is like this about many things. Heck that may even be why his drive is low. Because it is something I am trying to control. It is something that bothers me and something that I call him on the carpet for constantly.

Grrrrr tonight he did come over to bring our daughter her medication that 3as left in his car. He has been here for like 6 hours and even just ate dinner with us. Our daughters are having a hard time with this. So I hate to say leave when I know the kid's want to visit with him. But I don't want him to get the impression that things are okay and he can just come home. I want to stand my ground with this. Even if it means we do divorce. For right now I am hoping the seperation may show him how much he is going to miss. That just maybe he will turn himself around.