Okay reporting..I gave him a piece of paper and pencil and asked him to make a list of cleaning supplies that would be adequate for him.....he wrote nothing.

I guess he thought if he did then he would have to actually do that cleaning job in the house from time to time. ARGH!

I was also thinking I think I am doomed to be with the man my husband is today. He has changed so much. He is rarely happy. One thing I do know is he does love his children so much. He has been a great dad. Never balked at changing a diaper or giving a bath or fixing a booboo. He has raised my older daughter since she was two and he loves her like his other two children. Really there is no difference in the attention the children get. My older daughter is his baby. That really is something that warms my heart. Her bio dad my ex husband is a piece of crap dad. She doesn't hurt to much because of it because she has her daddy at her side every day.

But even though I know he loves them and they are his life, he doesn't even have patience for them anymore. He is not hitting them or things like that. Just yelling a whole lot and very limited patience. Always grumpy I guess you could say. But when I look at my husband he has changed into his father there is no doubt about it. If I would have known his dad well before marriage and seen any resemblance in my husband I would not have married him. His father is bitter and mean and degrades people. He comes out and tells my husband he is fat or asks when he is having the baby. Now mind you his father is 50 pounds over weight himself! I have seen my husband do something like fixing something with his dad and his dad blows up. Not screaming just really sarcastic. I am a hot head if it was my dad I would have told him to stick it if he was going to talk to me like that.LOL His dad is very cold and distant and never shows much love or affection to his wife or his children. There has never been and I love you that I have ever heard or a hug. And his father always and this is always thinks he is right and is justiied. He has a low opinion of women and qoutes biblical stuff all the time. Like man being the head of household. Now my husband is not as bad as his father. But he is heading in that direction and fast. Like not being caring if I hurt or not. Thinking he is justified in everything he does, And above all thinks he doesn't have to appologize for anything.

Lately if the kid's get hurt he is like it don't hurt that bad. I go to the extreme and baby them when they get hurt. But it ticks me off when he constantly calls our son a girl whenever he expresses emotion. I told him I don't want our son to grow up like you!