I don't mean this to sound hurtful...but it's possible he gets a sexual thrill from websites like that dating site....it may be the "newness" of someone else he is looking, he may think that will add that spark to his sex drive...and it may temporarily, but it will eventually fail too. The fact remains....you don't do what he is doing in a M...period! And you recognize that.
His telling you that he was just trying to get your goat is nothing but a bunch of bull too....fortunately you recognize that as well. He got caught, now he's trying to minimalize what he's done.
I can relate to you on where you are at right now...I was at that point with my XH when I left him. For me, I knew I was done when I began looking forward to days without having to deal with him, when I started seeing more positives than negatives to being M to him. Looking back it really was quite sad....I tried, and tried, and tried to work things out for a few years to no avail; eventually my loving feelings toward him just died...one morning I woke up and realized I didn't love the man I lived with anymore and that I was done.....I moved out by the end of the week...and THAT is what it took to wake him up, THAT was the last day he ever took a drink and he's still sober today (his current W can thank me for that )
I guess what I'm saying is this....don't be surprised if you kicking him out, or you moving out (which I don't suggest) isn't the catalyst necessary to snap him out of it. He may not snap out of it, but he hasn't lost everything yet....once he gets a taste of you and the kids not being around he may not like it and may want to do whatever it takes to get you back.
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