Quote: Have you read The Five Love Languages (5LL) by Dr. Gary Chapman? It could be helpful with improving the communication between you and H. If you read the book, you can figure out his LL (if you don't already know it) and begin "communicating" with him by using it. Hopefully after some time, H will reciprocate in your LL which seems to be Physical Touch (???).
I haven't read it but I do plan on getting it. Thanks for the tip. I do think my love language is physical touch.
Quote: Above all, try to be more positive and cheery around H. Yes, you're hurting and you're angry with what's happened, but being angry and placing blame on him isn't going to get you anywhere. It's not going to get you what you want, right?
This will be the hardest thing to do. But I will try my hardest. I am the kind of person who can't stand when someone does something and thinks they never have to say sorry or take accountability for their actions. I think it was all in the way I grew up and the interactions I seen between my parents that drove me to be this way.
Quote: but I have come to realize that the EA was only a symptom of the REAL problems between us.
What do you think are the real problems? Do you think the problems led to the infrequency..is that what you are saying?
I do think my love language is physical touch.
But I will try my hardest. I am the kind of person who can't stand when someone does something and thinks they never have to say sorry or take accountability for their actions. I think it was all in the way I grew up and the interactions I seen between my parents that drove me to be this way. 