Hey, cally. I was trying to say the same as NOPkins, but he was much more thorough .

I also remember from your first post to me how you said you felt like you could post in many of the forums here. To me, that says there are definitely more issues in your M other than . I also came across another thread where you posted you felt your M was close to the end.

Have you read The Five Love Languages (5LL) by Dr. Gary Chapman? It could be helpful with improving the communication between you and H. If you read the book, you can figure out his LL (if you don't already know it) and begin "communicating" with him by using it. Hopefully after some time, H will reciprocate in your LL which seems to be Physical Touch (???).

Above all, try to be more positive and cheery around H. Yes, you're hurting and you're angry with what's happened, but being angry and placing blame on him isn't going to get you anywhere. It's not going to get you what you want, right?

We're all pulling for you, cally! ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

JV

BTW, I'd like to add that in my sitch, I wasn't happy either with the frequency of or lack thereof, but that wasn't the real problem. When I found out about H's EA, I thought THAT was the problem, but I have come to realize that the EA was only a symptom of the REAL problems between us.

The real issues in your R need to be addressed. I'm not saying that an A is going to happen. I'm just trying to say that you need to work on whatever the issues may be before things take a turn for the worse.

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."

Last edited by JVJKB; 06/15/05 01:01 AM.
Valerie

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown

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