Nop.....great advice I will snoop around. Because seeing something like what he had posted on that site makes me not trust him. I am fairly confident that he is not having an affair. So I guess I just don't understand his actions. They confuse me to no end.

I have confronted his actions. I have been down right ill and nasty towards him. It didn't start off that way. But when he couldn't even appologize or act remoreseful or even admit it was hurtful, well, it saddened me and angered me to no end. I have told him his actions showed a total lack of respect. I told him it was a mean and hurtful thing to do. He still stands by it was only a joke to get my goat. He knew it was the screen name we both used. He said don't you think if I was serious I would have tried to hide it in some way.

My husband IS NOT a communicator at all. I really don't know if he hoped my reaction would have been different. Like as in a oh your horny well lets go. But truth is to read it ticked me off.

He made this comment about him being the only one in the house to not have any privacy. That he can't even get on the computer without being watched over. But I found this interesting right after that he brought up how I have my secret screen name that nobody can get on because it's a secret password. So I guess he has tried to get on. So I said well I guess it must bother you and that's why your mentioning it. He said really fast to defend no it don't bother me I'm just making a point you have privacy and I am the only one who don't.

To me this clearly must bother him and he is wondering what I am doing on that screen name. I know he would never mention it. Because of a past comment I made once when he made a comment about insecurity. I said I am sorry you feel insecure because you know you don't satisfy me sexually. I know I know bad thing to say. He knows he satisfies me in quality every time. It is just quantity and him showing desire.

He avoids the topis of sex like the plague. So if things bothered him I don't think he would express them.

We have been fighting like crazy. I have been so hurt and crabby. I quit smoking almost 4 weeks ago and I am sure that has added to it also. I told him yesterday because of course there was no sex this weekend. So it's going on two weeks. When he did agree to two times a week. But I told him get use to it this is me with no sex and no smoking. He said go but a pack of cigarettes. And I of course shot back with a mean comment about why you can't step up to the plate on the other.