I don't have any advice I feel I can give you, but I wanted to let you know you have my support and many (((((((((HUGS))))))))).
You know my sitch, so I really can understand the hurt, anger, and devastation you must be feeling right now. I don't think there's anything worse than knowing your spouse has looked elsewhere for companionship.
I'm very sorry, cally, that I don't have much to give. You've been a tremendous help to me. Just try to remain calm for now so you don't risk doing anything out of anger and frustration that you might regret later.
You are in my thoughts, sweetie.
JV
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
