Thanks, NOPkins. I appreciate your honesty and I agree with everything you said. I know too well about gays enjoying "both sides of the gender pool"...I worked for a lesbian doctor and she and her friends routinely swapped back and forth between sexes, so that's why I was worried about this co-worker of H's. I won't leave anything to chance, ever.
As far as looks go...well, I agree with that, too. I've seen it happen to people I've known. But it made me happy just the same to discover she hasn't got anything over me in that dept.
I'm still waiting for "Not Just Friends" to arrive and I'll get into it as soon as it gets here. I'll make sure the H sees it lying around here, in case he's interested.
I will initiate some chats with the H about the concerns I had, as well as his own. I'm not one for sweeping any thing under the rug and will make sure this whole scenario doesn't get shrugged off like it never happened.
You're right about it sounding like we're in a good place. And it's better than it ever was before. H continues to talk about our future together and we appear to be on the same page about everything in general...and otherwise.
I'm not fooling myself into thinking that everything will be hunky-dory on my end thought wise. I've trained my brain the past 8-9 months to go to places its never been before, and I realize that now I'll have to get it back on track. Got any suggested readings or advice on that to help the transition along?
In case you've wondered, I think the one single issue that caused me so much concern and paranoia about the OW was the not knowing if she was in fact lesbian or not. I had it in my head that it was a total ruse to disguise something else with. I somehow felt alot calmer just knowing that. Having said that tho...I'll never let my guard down about any OW. Not that I ever have, but I'll just pay more attention in general. I'm not feeling like I'll have to continuously operate in covert mode to keep on top of things, but I'm just going to keep an eye open at all times.
I'm not taken aback by your musings at all...I welcome any thoughts and insights you may have about my sitch. I know a wise man when I hear one.
